We named our son Vishaal, meaning Infinite/Eternal. Whilst we only had Vishaal on earth with us for one day, he is infinite, as is the love that anyone who has lost a child will testify to.
The most important factor in healing from loss is having the support of other people. We are listening.
Our hope is to continue providing an outlet in collectively sharing our emotions so we can feel love, peace and togetherness.
My husband and I were at such a loss when it came to the anniversary of Mariella’s stillbirth. We knew we wanted to remember her and honour her but had no idea what to do or where to start. I contacted Madhu after hearing about the great work she was doing with The Vishaal Foundation. Madhu got back to me very quickly (something other much larger national Stillbirth charity and support groups had failed on a number of occasions to do). She provided me with fantastic support, advice, ideas and even candles, memorial service sheets and other items for the day to use to remember Mariella. I know for sure without the support of The Vishaal Foundation, my husband and I would have been at a complete loss. The work that is done by Madhu and the rest of her team provides vital, personal, support and understanding at a time when that is exactly what you need but very rarely what you get. Friends and family do their best to understand but unless you have been through something like this you can't understand. The Vishaal Foundation successfully supports and introduces individuals who are so much in needed but so often ignored.
An Amazing Service to help bring us all together to share, feel and talk but also to be emotional and reflect on our children. Today was perfect in every way please continue but don't change.
Thank you so much for organizing the service. My son Patrick was born and died a few years ago last week, so the service was very close to his anniversary. Hearing other stories helped me to feel less alone in the grief which I still feel, especially as one of the speakers described a situation very close to mine. Patrick was born in Barbados while his mother was there for immigration reasons. I was here in the UK. We had no photo, no service, no grave. Coming on Saturday it felt that at last Patrick had had his funeral; I watched his balloon until it was no longer visible, and as it went felt I was letting Patrick himself go at last into the arms of the Lord. Thank you once again.
To be honest, I nearly didn't come. I thought "here we go, picking a scab off of an unhealed wound" but I am so glad I did. It wasn't just losing our child; it was the knock-on effect of that. Today was so therapeutic for me to help me let go of a lot of hurt for which I thank you from the bottom of my heart. We lost our angel in 2004, a long time ago, I now have a 5-year-old Son who I gave the biggest hug to when I got home and gave thanks for what I do have, not what I don't. Thank you again.
Thank you, for arranging yesterday and giving bereaved parents the opportunity to come together to remember and talk about their babies. The day was perfect.
Dear Madhu, your championing of this issue is done with such love and compassion, everyone involved or who attended, cannot fail to be moved by your graciousness of spirit and gentle loving nature. If only there were more Madhus around the world, those who find themselves in this difficult, heart wrenching situation may not feel so isolated and alone. It is my privilege to walk with you on this journey, enabling so many who crave comfort to receive, if only briefly, a glimmer of hope.
What more can I say Madhu but "thank you”. Thank you for today. I can truly say for the first time in 8 years, I felt a little bit of my soul fill today and a bit of my grief lift. I needed to cry those tears today for my daughter but with people who I didn't have to explain anything to. You are a truly inspirational woman Madhu.